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lemming - 2007-05-09 14:25:45
OMG re: GND. We have ordinary lives and then something happens.
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readersguide - 2007-05-09 15:54:17
I was just wondering, as I thought this over last night, whether TGND might not be jealous of AJ and M, especially when I remembered that you said AJ calls M his best friend. That makes sense. It's still a little hard to like all the making up stories, like that she's going to invite M into her hot tub. My kids, like AJ, were never sophisticated enough to either make up that kind of story or to realize that they were only stories, which always used to infuriate me, too. Also, my kids too would drop even the most interesting thing they were doing by themselves to run off and do the stupidest thing with a friend. But I think that may actually be okay -- it's probably good to be interested in playing with others, and I don't actually think they lose their real sense of themselves -- even when M insists on spending hours, for instance, at Helena's house watching things like American's new top model or America's new best hairdo, or America's new most stupid person to ever sing a song really badly while wearing an absolutely hideous dress. All those things are strangely more attractive than coming home and reading a great book. But watching N, who's two years older and was totally the same way, it seems that eventually they do come around to a sense of -- well, maybe I don't want to watch this stupid show. Maybe I'd rather make plans to do this thing that's actually interesting. So -- it's probably normal, and probably not permanent. I think.
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rs - 2007-05-09 16:10:15
Stroke? Wow, isn't he awfully young for that? I hope that everything is OK!
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Harriet - 2007-05-09 21:50:37
Not TGND's father -- TGND's mother's father. He just turned 80 and has had a lot of health problems. Sorry if I was unclear. And readersguide, you make a good point. I remember trying on things my friends said or did that appealed to me and trying to make them my own or rejecting them because they were uncomfortable. It's all experimentation and socialization. And AJ is extremely social, which, given that he has nerdly tendencies and is an only child, is definitely a good thing for him. Still, if he were doing this with a big brother or sister, I'd have a different perspective. I was stunned at how fast the protective duty got switched on, even in the face of another six year old, and one I know and usually like at that. In moments like that, I'm not always so good at remembering the big picture like change and growth and the incredible capacity for the common six-year-old to forgive and forget. And by the way, today she not only asked if AJ could go in her hot tub, but if he could go for a ride in her convertible (a vintage VW bug). I'm pretty sure both activities will get vetoed by her mother, but AJ was on cloud nine. He doesn't care about the activities. It's just nice to be asked.
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